谷生偉

在生活中，我們每天都不可避免地需要和很多人進(jìn)行溝通。然而，在溝通中，總有些話難以說出口，這種情況下怎么辦呢？

There?s?a?conversation?you?re?avoiding.?It?feels?important?and?you?are?putting?it?off.?But?delaying?doesn?t?solve?anything.?Getting?started?might?involve?some?awkward?moments，?but，?after?that，?the?situation?is?open?for?discussion?and?exploration.?Tried?and?tested?approaches?can?help?to?smooth?the?way.?Here?are?some?useful?tips?from?my?experience?as?a?psychotherapist?（精神治療醫(yī)生）.

Listen?to?understand

Instead?of?working?out?what?to?say?next?while?the?other?person?is?speaking，?just?listen.?Check?your?understanding?by?repeating?what?you?heard?with?empathy，?starting?with?something?like?“Have?I?got?this?right？?You?feel...”?Repeating?their?view?back?also?helps?the?other?person?to?feel?heard?and?respected.

In?those?conversations?about?disagreement，?try?to?present?the?most?positive?aspects?of?the?other?person?s?view，?which?can?help?both?of?you?to?find?common?ground.

Support，?don?t?“fix”

Instead?of?proposing?ways?to?fix?a?problem，?ask?what?solutions?they?have?considered?or?what?they?would?advise?someone?else?in?their?situation?to?do.?It?s?surprising?how?often?a?person?feeling?completely?stuck?can?tell?you?the?great?advice?they?would?give?a?friend?in?the?same?position.

Look?after?yourself

If?you?are?left?feeling?unsettled?by?a?conversation，?remember?to?treat?yourself?kindly.?Some?people?take?five?minutes?to?walk?outdoors?or?to?focus?on?their?breathing，?which?helps?them?to?recentre?themselves.

Don?t?pick?up?the?other?person?s?burden：?the?solution?is?for?them?to?find，?but?compassionate?conversation?can?help?others?to?process?their?experiences.?That?is?often?helpful?enough.C79DA76F-A9EE-43C5-B311-836D5C0CA141