苗淑華

It can be difficult to watch a friend deal with painful1 things. This could beanything from a death of a family member or loved one， an illness， a fight withsomeone， to a failing grade2 in school. You can try to do some things to cheer yourfriends up and tell them youre there for them.

看著朋友經(jīng)歷痛苦的事情可能會(huì)讓人很難過(guò)。這可能是任何事情，從家庭成員或所愛(ài)之人的死亡、疾病、與他人的爭(zhēng)吵，到學(xué)校里功課不及格。你可以嘗試做一些事情來(lái)讓你的朋友振作起來(lái)，并告訴他們你會(huì)支持他們。

1. Listen to your friends.

1. 傾聽(tīng)朋友的心聲遙

Listening is one of the most important things you can do for someone who is nothappy. Active listening shows that you care about your friends and they are beingheard. When youre really listening， make sure that there are no other distractions3.Try to make eye contact4 with them while theyre talking. It shows that yourepaying attention.

傾聽(tīng)是你能為不開(kāi)心的人做的最重要的事情之一。積極傾聽(tīng)表明你關(guān)心你的朋友，有人正在聽(tīng)他們傾訴。當(dāng)你真正傾聽(tīng)時(shí)，要確保沒(méi)有其他事情干擾。在他們說(shuō)話的時(shí)候，試著與他們進(jìn)行眼神交流，這也表明你在專心致志地聆聽(tīng)。

2. Be careful about giving advice.

2. 提供建議的時(shí)候要謹(jǐn)慎遙

Tell a similar5 story or experience that youve gone through if you think itmight help. Any lessons that you learned can be really helpful. After listening， givethem advice if they ask for it. Let them know you have an idea of what they coulddo. If you dont， be honest6 to yourself and them. Take them to a person who has abetter idea for the problem than you have.

如果你認(rèn)為可能會(huì)有所幫助，就給朋友講一個(gè)類似的故事或你的親身經(jīng)歷。

你學(xué)到的任何經(jīng)驗(yàn)都會(huì)很有幫助。聽(tīng)完他們的傾訴后，如果他們提出要求，那就給他們提建議，讓他們知道你知道他們能做些什么。如果你不知道，要對(duì)自己和他們坦誠(chéng)以待，把他們交給一個(gè)有更好的辦法解決這個(gè)問(wèn)題的人。

3. Spend time with your friends.

3. 與朋友共度時(shí)光遙

When people are sad， its not good for them to stay alone for too much time.You and your friends can do something to relax， such as do sports， go shopping，listen to music， watch a movie， or have some delicious food. Dont keep sayingthings like “cheer up”. Dont tell others how to feel. Let them feel and expresstheir emotions7. It will be much helpful to cheer them up.

當(dāng)人們難過(guò)的時(shí)候，獨(dú)處太久對(duì)他們來(lái)說(shuō)不太好。你和朋友可以做一些放松的事情，比如做運(yùn)動(dòng)、購(gòu)物、聽(tīng)音樂(lè)、看電影，或吃一些美食。不要老是說(shuō)“振作起來(lái)”之類的話，不要告訴別人該如何去感受。讓他們自己感受并表達(dá)自己的情緒。

這非常有助于讓他們振作起來(lái)。

A friend in need is a friend indeed8. Try your best to help your friends andsome day you maybe helped as well.

患難見(jiàn)真情。盡力幫助你的朋友吧，也許有一天你也會(huì)得到他人的幫助。

Notes

1. painful 令人痛苦；難受的；困難的

2. failing grade 失??；不及格分

3. distraction? 使人分心的事物；干擾；分心的事物

4. eye contact 目光接觸；眼神交會(huì)

5. similar? 相像的；類似的

6. honest? 誠(chéng)實(shí)的；正直的；坦誠(chéng)的；直率的

7. emotion 情感；情緒

8. indeed 確實(shí)；的確；實(shí)際上；真正地