Be Left Out or Make Friends？

Its hard when a best friend isnt around-maybe because you have moved to a different school or a different class， or maybe youre just home sick for the day. Recess or lunchtime can feel lonely without friends around. Will it ever feel the same？ You want to have new friends， but how do you make them？ Maybe it seems like everybody else already has their friends. But remember， theres always room for more friends.

Start by looking around your classroom-think about which kids youd like to play with at recess. Look for chances to say hi to them， smile， and be friendly. Offer to share something or give a compliment. Invite someone to play with you or say， “Do you want to sit here？” in the lunchroom. When youre at recess， walk over to kids you want to play with， act friendly， and say， “Hi， can I play， too？” or just join in.

If you have trouble doing this or if youre feeling shy， ask your teacher to help you make new friends. Teachers are usually pretty good at matching up friends. The best way to make friends is to be a friend. Be kind， be friendly， share， say positive things， offer to help-and pretty soon， youll have one， or two， or even more new friends.

You might still miss that special best friend. But when you see each other， you can share something you didnt have before she left： you can introduce her to your new friends！

How to Get Along with People

Then comes the question： How do you start？ How do you get along with people？

Harsh truth of life-you cant please everybody. But since people are social creatures （unless youre a total scrooge）， you just have to learn how to get along. Most of these tips are common sense. Still， we lapse in following them. So take these tips as reminders on how to get along with people.

Here are 5 Dos to help you get along with people：

√ Greet people

Smile. Greet people a good day （or whatever time of day it is）. It doesnt do people harm. It also gives people the impression that youre open and approachable.

√ Share

Be it some mints in your pocket or a bag of chips， ask if people would like some，followed by a handing gesture.

√ Lend a helping hand

Simple gestures like helping people carry a load or holding a door for them go a long way.

√ Smile

Perhaps the easiest way to introduce yourself， smiling is part of being human. Theres a great reason why it takes less muscles to smile than to frown： Nature just intended us to smile more.

√ Respect others

The worlds full of differences. However， prejudice is so last century. So learn to acknowledge peoples uniqueness and respect them. Its the only way other people will tolerate your own unique personality.

Here are 5 Donts to help you get along with people：

Dont be so touchy

It doesnt really help you to be so sensitive. If you raise hell for the trivial things， then ask yourself， “Why am I offended by this？ Why do I feel annoyed？” Introspection will show you that its not really that big a deal at all.

People joke around and， most of the time， these can be playful remarks with no intention of offending you. As long as it doesnt really hurt your pride and principles， just go along for the ride.

Dont lose your temper

Quick to lose your temper？ Try slow-counting one to ten. Breathe. Getting angry easily over trivial things will make people move away from you.

If you constantly get angry （or even look it）， youll easily ward people off， even if you dont mean to. You wont become approachable with such an angry demeanor. Besides， too much anger brings too much stress. And thats not good for you at all.

Dont be annoying

There are several ways you can annoy people， even if you dont mean it. Never expect that every days a great day for everyone. We all have good days and bad days. If you sense other people having a bad day and wanting some space and time to themselves， give them that. If people tell you frankly that one of your habits annoys them， better start making some changes. Chances are， theyre for the better.

Dont gossip

No one likes people who talk behind their backs. You might be the life of the water cooler， but everyone will start to hate you and what you do. Your trust factor goes down every time you gossip.

Dont be an arrogant jerk

Sheer arrogance has no room in this world. Theres absolutely no reason to think lowly of other people. So dont carry a demeaning attitude. Everyones got brains， and you dont know what other people are really capable of.

落單還是交朋友？

最要好的朋友不在身邊真難熬——也許是因?yàn)槟戕D(zhuǎn)到新的學(xué)?；虬嗉?jí)，又或者那天你因病在家休養(yǎng)。課間休息或午餐時(shí)間沒有朋友在身邊，感覺真孤獨(dú)。你一直會(huì)這樣嗎？你希望交些新朋友，但是該如何結(jié)交他們呢？每個(gè)人似乎都有自己的朋友了。但是你要記住，朋友總是多多益善的。

就從環(huán)顧你的教室開始吧——想想在課間休息時(shí)你想和哪些孩子一起玩耍。尋找機(jī)會(huì)與他們打招呼，面帶微笑，親切友善。主動(dòng)分享或表示稱贊。邀請他人與你一起玩耍，或者在學(xué)校食堂里說：“你想坐在這里嗎？”課間休息時(shí)，走到你想與其一同玩耍的孩子身邊，友善地說：“嗨，我能一起玩嗎？”或干脆直接加入。

如果你沒辦法這么做，或者感到害羞，可以請老師幫助你結(jié)交新朋友。老師通常很善于撮合朋友。結(jié)交朋友最好的方法就是表現(xiàn)得像個(gè)朋友。親切友好，與人分享，言談積極，樂于助人——用不了多久，你將會(huì)擁有一個(gè)、兩個(gè)，甚至更多的新朋友。

你也許仍然會(huì)想念那位特別的好朋友?？墒钱?dāng)你們再見面時(shí)，你可以與她分享在她離去前你不曾擁有的東西：你可以將她介紹給你的新朋友！

如何與人相處

接下來的問題就是：你該如何開始？應(yīng)該怎樣與他人相處呢？

記住一條人生硬道理——你不可能討好每一個(gè)人。不過，既然人是社會(huì)性動(dòng)物（除非你是個(gè)十足的守財(cái)奴），你要做的就是學(xué)會(huì)如何與人融洽相處。以下這些小貼士大多是基本常識(shí)，但我們還是會(huì)不時(shí)出錯(cuò)。所以，把這些小貼士當(dāng)做如何與人相處的提示吧！

以下是幫助你與人相處的五個(gè)必做項(xiàng)：

√ 問候掛嘴邊

要面帶微笑。祝愿他人擁有開心的一天（或者一天中的任何時(shí)間）。這對他人沒什么害處，還能給他人留下大方隨和的印象。

√ 樂于分享

袋子里常備薄荷糖或一袋炸薯片，問問別人是否也想嘗一嘗，同時(shí)遞給他們。

√ 伸出援手

一些簡單的舉動(dòng)——例如幫別人提東西或是幫他們拉門——就能產(chǎn)生不俗的效果。

√ 笑臉迎人

這也許是最簡單的自我介紹方式了。微笑是我們作為人類的要素之一。微笑比皺眉所用的肌肉少得多是大有原因的：大自然也希望我們多微笑。

√ 尊重他人

這個(gè)世界充滿了差異，但是偏見早就過時(shí)了。所以，學(xué)著肯定他人的獨(dú)特之處并尊重他們。這也是讓他人包容你獨(dú)特個(gè)性的唯一方法。

以下是幫助你與他人相處的五個(gè)禁做項(xiàng)：

別太敏感

過于敏感對你來說真的沒什么好處。如果你為了一些雞毛蒜皮的事情而大吵大鬧，不妨問問自己：“我為什么會(huì)被這件事觸怒？我為什么覺得生氣？”自我反省會(huì)讓你發(fā)現(xiàn)，這實(shí)際上根本不算什么。

人們喜歡隨便開玩笑，大多數(shù)情況下，這些都是戲謔的話語，并非有意冒犯。只要它并沒有真正觸犯你的自尊和原則，你也不妨與民同樂吧。

別亂發(fā)脾氣

你很容易發(fā)脾氣嗎？試試從一慢慢數(shù)到十。深呼吸。為一點(diǎn)小事動(dòng)怒會(huì)讓人們遠(yuǎn)離你。

如果你經(jīng)常生氣（或者看起來像生氣的樣子），人們就會(huì)對你敬而遠(yuǎn)之，即便這并不是你的本意。這種易怒的態(tài)度讓你變得難以接近。此外，太多怒氣會(huì)帶來很大壓力。這對你也沒有一點(diǎn)好處。

別惹毛他人

惹人生氣的方式有很多種，即便這只是你的無心之失。不要指望所有人的每一天都能一帆風(fēng)順。我們的心情都會(huì)有起伏的時(shí)候。如果你感到別人心情不好，希望有一點(diǎn)獨(dú)處的空間和時(shí)間，那就趕緊閃開。如果別人坦誠地告訴你，你的某個(gè)習(xí)慣讓他們心煩，那么你最好開始有所改變。這樣情況應(yīng)該會(huì)有所好轉(zhuǎn)。

別說長道短

沒有人喜歡在背后說人壞話的人。你也許是校園八卦的活躍人物，但每個(gè)人都會(huì)開始討厭你的所作所為。每散播一次流言蜚語，你的可信度就會(huì)大打折扣。

別高傲自大

這個(gè)世界容不下過分自負(fù)的人。你完全沒有理由瞧不起別人，所以不要帶著一種紆尊降貴的態(tài)度。每個(gè)人都有腦子，你并不清楚他人有多大的真本事。