從容直面看顏的世界
從古到今,無論中外,人們從未停止過對外表美麗的追求。從“貌若潘安”“看殺衛(wèi)玠”“沉魚落雁”“閉月羞花”等成語里,我們能看到我國古代美人們因其美貌而萬代留名。《世說新語》里甚至有一個《容止》章節(jié)專門記錄美男子的容貌和舉止。再看西方神話中爭奪“最美女神”稱號的三女神、引發(fā)特洛伊戰(zhàn)爭的海倫、自戀至死也不忘孤芳自賞的納西索斯,以及如今美國電影網(wǎng)站的“世界最美面孔100人”評選,我們很容易發(fā)現(xiàn),追求視覺美是全人類的共性。
盡管這是個看顏的世界,但這并不是美人的天下。不可否認(rèn)美人在當(dāng)今時代可以靠外表大幅拉動經(jīng)濟,但掌握各領(lǐng)域命脈的依舊是有頭腦的人。能夠集美貌和智慧于一身固然最好,但對于絕大部分相貌平平的蕓蕓眾生而言,在全世界都看顏的壓力之下,保障幸福感的辦法有三個:一、全心全意地接受自己外貌上的不完美;二、每個人都有自己的內(nèi)在閃光點,顏值再高也無法替代,要學(xué)會欣賞這些優(yōu)點;三、以后天鍛煉出來的能力和培養(yǎng)出來的高情商完勝高顏值。時下流行一句話:“主要看氣質(zhì)?!睔赓|(zhì)靠的就是自內(nèi)而外流露的自信,以及頭腦中久經(jīng)沉淀的智慧。
本期“卷首語”和“最·專題”欄目的文章中都出現(xiàn)了不少描述外貌的詞匯和表達,同學(xué)們讀完以后可以回頭作匯總并溫習(xí)一下哦?!猂oza
馬修·迪克斯(Matthew Dicks)是美國的天才說書人、作家兼小學(xué)教師,著有《我的幻影朋友》(Memoirs of an Imaginary Friend)等四部暢銷小說,其作品被翻譯成了25種語言。同時他還是搖滾歌劇作家、婚禮DJ、播客節(jié)目主持人、人生導(dǎo)師和西蘭公國(The Principality of Sealand)的勛爵,可謂身份眾多。他對這個世界“看臉”的風(fēng)氣感受頗多。他決定從自己做起,改變這種風(fēng)氣。于是他為自己定下了一個目標(biāo):無論是當(dāng)面還是私下里,都不要對他人的外表發(fā)表負(fù)面評論。
I saw a middle-aged man yesterday wearing a pink shirt that didn't quite cover his1)belly, a pair of yellow shorts, work boots without laces and no socks. I turned to comment on his appearance to my wife, but then I stopped myself.
We have no right or reason to think less of this person because of his physical appearance.
A person should be able to wear whatever he or she wants without ever having to suffer a negative word about it from anyone, to their face or behind their back. Ever.
As a teacher, I have a2)principle of never commenting on a student's physical appearance,including3)complimenting a student on the way he or she looks. Instead of telling a student how much I like his haircut or her new dress, I4)restrict my comments to the things that truly matter:behavior, effort,5)determination,6)integrity,7)academic achievement, or8)sportsmanship.
While I have no reason to avoid complimenting adults on their physical appearance, I'd like to think that I could avoid giving negative comments of any kind at all times. I know this is unrealistic. Even if I can ignore a person's9)odd10)combination of clothing (and I usually can),there are so many other11)aspects of a person's physical appearance that might12)elicit a negative comment: unusual haircuts; numerous13)tattoos;14)excessive15)plastic surgery;16)gaudy jewelry;17)ostentatious18)displays of designer labels;weird piercings; overdone makeup. The list is endless.
Face Up to the Image-Obsessed World